Dating with Intention: A Guide for Christian Conservative Women

The term “dating with intention” has been circulating in the media for some time. As you scroll through social media, it’s clear that people are gradually moving away from hookup culture and toward purposeful dating. As Christians, this mindset should be familiar, but some of us have fallen into the trap of purposeless dating. That doesn’t make you a “bad Christian,” and you shouldn’t shame yourself for losing sight of dating’s true purpose. Instead, take this societal shift as an opportunity to get back on track.

Dating with intention can be intimidating because it means you can't spend time with just anyone who makes you feel good. Creating a list of values can help you assess whether someone aligns with your goals. It’s not enough to just have this list—you need to communicate it clearly and early on.

As a Christian conservative, finding someone spiritually aligned is essential. Swap surface-level questions like, “What’s your favorite color?” for meaningful ones like, “What church do you attend?” But here's a word of caution: many guys may claim to be religious when they’re not. Ladies, it’s time to stop settling for, “I haven’t been to church in a few years, but I’d be happy to go with you if you’d like.” We want spiritual leaders for our households—not men waiting for women to drag them back to church and open their Bibles again.

Purposeful dating may lead to more swings and misses than expected. Simply put, when you raise the bar, not everyone can meet it. Consider joining Conservative Women of NC to connect with like-minded women who can support and hold you accountable as you navigate dating with intention.

Xoxo, 

A Once Closeted Conservative